Talking about sex is difficult, even though it is known to be present almost everywhere. In fact, it’s not easy for many people to participate in these kinds of conversations, either because they’re embarrassed, or because they find it confusing.
On the other hand, there are those who cannot distinguish between what sexuality is or what differences exist between sex and gender. These, and many other doubts, continue to persist even though it is now relatively easier to have information about it.
In almost all spaces it becomes a topic of difficult approach. For example, there are parents who still don’t explain their children on the subject, until they ask. Today, however, it is known that it is important for parents to discuss these issues with their children, as it is part of their education.
Likewise, there are couples who also do not manage to talk about sex, which complicates relationships, because none comes to know what the sexual tastes or preferences of the other are. As long as it is difficult to address this issue, there will always be doubts, confusions and little compression of the other.
Everything about sex has always been taboo. That’s why there are still couples who have a hard time talking about it.
Sex and sexuality
Talking about sex is not the same as talking about sexuality, as there are differences between the two concepts. As long as the subject remains taboo, confusion will continue to reign. In any case, unresolved doubts prevent each person from knowing more about themselves and having trouble defining their personality.
Some institutions have already clarified that the term sexuality implies “a set of anatomical, psychological and affective conditions that characterize each sex”. That is, it is a fairly broad concept that encompasses the concept of sex, itself.
For this reason, alluding to the issue of sexuality involves considering social, cultural, and any other conditions in a person’s life. What is undoubtedly that this issue must be integrated into everyday life in order to clear up so many confusions that exist.
It is necessary to promote reflection on sexuality and to break down all myths about sex. This will allow us to end any kind of thinking that, instead of clarifying, subjects individuals to feeling guilt and fear.
It has already been explained that talking about sex is not the same as talking about sexuality, because this latter concept is much broader. However, within sexuality is the possibility of talking about sex. Thus, intimacy and pleasure can be expressed through certain beliefs, thoughts, attitudes, fantasies, norms, values, among others.
When talking about sex it refers to the physiological and anatomical characteristics that make the female different from the male, but that should not necessarily coincide with the way each person feels. For these reasons, it is a relevant topic in the family nucleus, schools and, above all, in the couple.
To talk about sex it is necessary to break down the taboos around the subject. And this not only in the couple, but in the family nucleus and at school.
Talking about sex
To assume that it is a vital issue: that is, that it is part of every human being.
Recognize its importance: that is, the most illogical thing is to live without pretending to talk about sex because it is part of one of the dimensions of life.
Address the issue itself: trying to avoid the taboos that exist on the subject. The most important thing is clear and truthful information.
Share with the couple: to be able to get to know each other better and recognize their tastes and desires. Talking about sex in the couple reinforces intimacy.
To put aside shame: because whether you want to recognize it or not, sexuality is a dimension of life, and within it it is relevant to address these issues.
Breaking down myths about sex
It is advisable to set aside any feelings of shame when talking about sex, and this begins, above all, at home. It is time to set aside taboos, myths and false beliefs to deal with the subject as much objectivity as possible in order to achieve a good sex education.